Change menu_headings to accept color and attribute

Instead of just accepting an attribute, it's now possible to
use a color, or both color and attribute, for example:

OPTIONS=menu_headings:inverse
OPTIONS=menu_headings:red
OPTIONS=menu_headings:red&underline

Default is still just inverse.
This lets the player change the menu heading color without
needing to use menu colors for them.

Also makes it so the core uses NO_COLOR instead of 0, for all
the menu lines which don't have any prefedefined color.

Tested for tty, curses, x11, qt, and win32

win/Qt/qt_menu.h

@@ -58,7 +58,7 @@ public:
 
 	virtual void StartMenu(bool using_WIN_INVEN = false);
         virtual void AddMenu(int glyph, const ANY_P *identifier,
-                             char ch, char gch, int attr,
+                             char ch, char gch, int attr, int clr,
                              const QString& str, unsigned itemflags);
 	virtual void EndMenu(const QString& prompt);
 	virtual int SelectMenu(int how, MENU_ITEM_P **menu_list);
@@ -195,7 +195,7 @@ public:
 	// Menu
         virtual void StartMenu(bool using_WIN_INVENT = false);
         virtual void AddMenu(int glyph, const ANY_P *identifier,
-                             char ch, char gch, int attr,
+                             char ch, char gch, int attr, int clr,
                              const QString& str, unsigned itemflags);
 	virtual void EndMenu(const QString& prompt);
 	virtual int SelectMenu(int how, MENU_ITEM_P **menu_list);